What Are Good Boundaries?
We get encouraged to have “good boundaries”, right? Here are some healthy thoughts and actions that are examples of healthy boundaries. For many, your own experience somehow took a back seat including being conditioned to be overly focused on others. It’s no wonder that boundaries can be confusing. Read through the list. Which feel already available in your personal tool kit? Celebrate that, and then work on something new to expand further into the world of good boundaries. It’ll benefit you and the folks you care about.
Healthy Boundaries Examples:
It’s not my job to fix anybody else.
It’s okay to say no.
It’s okay if others get angry or sad. Their experience is theirs.
It isn’t my job to take responsibility for others.
It is my job to know my own wants, needs and feelings, and to meet them.
I am in charge of me.
You are in charge of you.
Everybody has a right to their own feelings and experience.
We don’t have to agree.
I am enough.
If these feel totally out of reach, you might like to take a look at my post on co-dependency, which is something that obstructs knowing our own wants, needs and feelings. If this list is totally foreign and feels impossible to you, take a look at your relationships. Is co-dependency getting in your way of healthy boundaries?